Flirting
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Peta's Relationship Game
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How to make yourself
and someone else feel great
Think of all the people
you really like, friends, family, colleagues,
lovers. When was the last time you told them what
you liked about them? People love to be praised, encouraged,
admired and loved. Sometimes we work too hard, or worry
too much that we forget to be nice to those around us. I
devised this relationship game to help you develop more harmonious
connections with those around you. Use it wisely and often and
you will see the benefits.. There are instructions for how to
play it in a relationship with a lover and
with friends/colleagues.
In a Relationship
First
make sure you and your partner are at ease and have some time to
yourself [you only need about 10 minutes].
Tell your partner you
have something to say to them.
Start by saying 'What I
like/love about you is...
List out all the things
you do like/love about them.
Notice how good it feels
and their reactions [bet they smile]
Then say to them
What do you like about
me?
When they've finished
their list
Ask them
What about me irritates
you?
Be prepared to listen to
their feedback. It might be something you want to change e.g.
my boyfriend told me I say 'you know what I mean' a helluva
lot. I do want to recognize this and not slip into cliché
phrases. If it is something you recognize might be useful to change,
thank them and ask them for help if appropriate.
It might be something that you think you can't change or don't even
want to. This may be an area for you to discuss, at another time
maybe.
Then ask them if you can
tell them what irritates you about them. DON'T take this as an
opportunity to moan. Pick on something you think they would be
open to discussing and you might be able to compromise on e.g.
"You nag me when we go shopping together' You might talk
about it and discover that you can do shopping some other way rather
than continue what is not working for you.
At the end of it, smile
and ask them nicely to say again one thing they like about
you. Make eye contact while you do it. Keep the
good feelings and tell them one thing you like about them. It
can be a repeat of something already said.
Discuss how it made you
feel
Make time to discuss any
issues that arise
Resolve to do it
regularly..
With
Friends/Colleagues
Make
a list of everyone you like, admire and then write down next to
their names what you like, admire about them. Then TELL THEM
at the next possible opportunity.
Ask someone if they have
a moment and then tell them I just wanted to tell you that I
like/admire you because.... then say it. e.g. "You've
always been there for me when I've wobbled". "Your
advice really helped me with that project, thank
you".
Don't expect them to
respond.. just give it for the sake of giving and for the good
feelings it gives you and them.
Peta Heskell December
2001
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© 1999 - 2001 Peta Heskell
