Tip No 1 - Get out there in the world
I have so many people whining to me that they never meet anyone only to discover that they spend most of their time in front of the TV. New people will not materialise themselves in your front room - you have to get out there and meet them.
A lot of people meet their prospective partners at work. How often do you suggest that you all go out for a social evening after work? How often do you accept invitations to do so?
If you go to the gym, do you work-out your muscles and nothing else? I see loads of flyers at my gym for running groups, paint-ball weekends and all kinds of activities. Give it a go. Most of the people who go in for these activities are just like you - they want to meet people and have a good time.
How much money and time do you invest in developing yourself? Attend a workshop on yoga, martial arts, movement, DIY,painting, pottery, creating your dreams, group singing, acting, voice lessons, Flirting Classes . You get to learn something AND you meet people with similar interests. Meanwhile you might want to sing up for our flirting communication tips below, before you go on to the next tip.
Tip No 2 - Be interesting by being interested
Jay Abrahams, the famous marketing expert, tells the story of a conversation he had with a stranger in a bar in Sydney.He introduced himself and said that he was there to do a lecture tour. He then asked the stranger "What brings you to Sydney?"
An hour later the man got up to leave. "You know Mr Abrahams" he said, "You are one of the most interesting people I have ever met". Jay recounts that during the entire hour the only words he spoke were those of his introduction and his first question!
People like people who are interested in them. You don't have to shut up entirely but when you engage someone in conversation make sure you spend at least 60% of the time listening to THEM!
Tip No 3 - Let them know you are interested!
I was lunching with a girlfriend recently. A hunky guy walked in and my friend's reaction was 'Wow!' She spent the rest of the lunchtime doing everything she could NOT to look at him. When I asked her what she was doing she replied "I don't want to be too obvious"
The guy left and she lost her chance. How are people going to know you are interested if you don't show them. There are millions of people out there who are just like my friend. Someone has to make the first move.
If you are interested in someone, smile at them. It's not an invitation to engage in sex, it's just a nice way of shining your light.
Tip No 4 - Give people a reason to talk to you
I am renowned for my individual style of dress - I like my clothes to reflect my personality. . A while ago I started wearing Indian Bindis on my forehead. I had an enormous collection.. I got stopped in the street by all kinds of people asking what it is, how it sticks on etc. I gave people a reason to talk to me. Wear only what is really YOU.
If you want to meet people make sure you are wearing or carrying something that gets you noticed. You don't have to wear a Bindi, it could be a brooch. or an unusual umbrella. or an outrageous tie.
If you want to make a meaningful statement about yourself, carry a book about something that interests you. I often start conversations with strangers on the strength of a book they are reading. Lines like 'Great book' if you've read it or 'That looks fascinating ' if you haven't, will get them talking. -
Recipe for a good marriage by Christine Hamilton
Take a leaf out of Neil and Christine Hamilton's book. [He's an ex MP who resigned in the wake of some scandals and Christine is his very loyal wife]. They might be considered ridiculous figures by some because they're always in the media and doing silly things but in fact they're a loving couple with a great sense of humour who know how to make the best of a bad situation. I recently met them on a TV programme and was impressed with their positive attitude, the great energy that comes out of them and goes between them and their zest for life. They both flirt with each other and everyone around them. Christine gave us her formula for a good marriage
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